Saturday, August 13, 2016

Alright folks, let me tell you my little story about the TheraWand. In full disclosure, I was on Amazon looking for my next prostate massager, because, well, I’m just into that sort of thing. Page after page after page, it’s all stuff that I already had, and I was getting bored. Then, the next page turns up this TheraWand. What? TheraWand? I was intrigued...




As it turns out, the TheraWand is an internal physical therapy device designed for both men and women. It was created to help a myriad of vaginal and rectal problems, and it's even used to treat scar tissue on the perineum (which happens to women when babies are born). Then I got this idea: I’m going to put myself in the shoes of a man who has prostatitis and is absolutely opposed to the idea of using a intrarectal therapy device. And then, I’m going to write about the experience from his perspective.

So, I wrote to the company a few times, and they agreed to send me the wand in exchange for a tutorial about which I have described. The focus here is knowing that this is ultimately a therapy device, and I am only speaking from my experience as a man. Ladies, sorry, you are going to have to try this for yourself. However, my experience dictates that this would be ideally suited not just for a man, but a woman as well. The design is flawless.

As soon as it came in the mail (which was today, the date of this article), I told my Wife, “Why don’t you go take a nap, so I can do this in private.” She agreed. I then went in the living room and put myself in the perspective of a reluctant man trying to overcome an inflamed prostate, erectile dysfunction, and general pelvic floor pain. I read the instruction sheet (that comes with it), laid down a towel, applied the lubrication, and then did what any non-experienced guy would do -- shoved it in at full throttle. You might think, “Hey, didn’t that hurt?” No, it didn’t. In fact, it went in rather easily with the lube and the tapered tip. The medical grade acrylic was already room temperature, and it warmed up to my body temperature in a matter of seconds.

My next step was to use it the way it was designed. Following the instructions that come with it, I went from one o’clock to six o’clock inside my rectal tissue, and massaged lightly, while also pausing to press firmly. I then went from eleven to six and did the same thing. The two right angles of the TheraWand make it extremely easy to turn and navigate your cavity. The instructions also state to NOT use it on the twelve o’clock spot, as not to hit the sensitive prostate and urethra area. The whole experience was pain free, and it took all of seven minutes to accomplish. It could be done in less time, but use it for the therapy for which it was designed. Take your time, and you’ll heal properly.

Then, I thought, “What if my Physical Therapist wanted me to massage my prostate to alleviate inflammation?” Being experienced at this for almost two decades, I knew what I was doing. However, I took it slowly, and used it as if I were a beginner. Let me put this disclaimer out, though: If you are over forty, go get your prostate checked for cancer before you do this. If you have prostate cancer and start massaging it, you can spread that cancer outward. If you just have an enlarged or inflamed prostate (prostatitis), you’ll be fine.

To describe the pressure to you, it feels awkward at first, and you actually feel it in the glans of your penis (the head). It will feel warm and like you have to urinate. However, if you go slowly, and if you just use moderate pressure with controlled massage movements, it will be a pleasurable experience that will not make you gay -- because some of you guys might think that it does.

If you do this on a daily basis, or at least every other day, you will very likely eliminate your prostatitis, sexual pain, or tight muscles on your pelvic floor. The wand, after you are done using it, is easy to remove and easy to clean.

Final thoughts: This is designed as a physical therapy device, and it does a wonderful job doing what it supposed to do. If you follow the instructions, you’ll be just fine. For you guys out there, I will mention that there may be some “pleasant” side effects. Enjoy them. It might open you up to a whole new world of awesome sensations.

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TheraWand -- an Ingenious Device to Treat Prostatitis, Sexual Discomfort, and Pelvic Floor Pain

Friday, August 12, 2016

This review is based on two products, because you will likely want to buy the WAS (Weight Attachment System) with the TOM v2 (The Other Man Version 2). Here are the pics, and then we’ll get to the usage:

                   
                               


Essentially, the TOM is a base platform upon which you can apply up to three suction cup dildos. For the demonstration in my video and pictures, I used a Vixen Creations Maverick suction cup dong. It has three different angles where you can place your suction cup, and it has a rubberized base that will provide anti-slip while using it on a hard surface.

The reason I emphasize getting the WAS, is because you might want to use this apparatus on the bed. The added weight from that attachment will allow you to utilize any platform in your house without worrying about it slipping, shifting, or falling off.

The surface of the TOM v2 is very very smooth, and the suction cup had no problem attaching to the base. You’ll see from the video that I added quite an amount of weight, and I was able to pull the whole thing up by the dong. That is an incredible piece of engineering. The TOM V2 is also substantially solid. It is not made of cheap plastic -- it was designed specifically for sexual activity. It can take a beating.

The uses are only limited by your imagination. You can see from one of the photos that Tender Beaver (the company who makes TOM v2) offers some suggested positions for use. Use it solo, with a couple, attach multiple dongs, and just have fun. It really takes the nonsense out of trying to find the right position for your suction dong. No more weird squatting on the floor or trying to balance on the bed while you hump the wall. This will solve those problems. My only regret is that I didn’t make this product. I’d be rich by now.

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TOM v2 and WAS -- Why You Need This in Your Bedroom Set

Thursday, August 11, 2016


Just when I thought the industry couldn’t come out with something new, PicoBong comes out with the Transformer. This is the most unique sex toy I have seen in quite some time, and the possibilities are nearly endless.

                              





What I like about this brand is that it just seems fun. It’s not designed to be classy, sexual, cheap, etc. It feels like it has the personality suited for a couple who can laugh while they are making love. Don’t get me wrong. This toy can definitely be used for long romantic nights, secret thrills, etc. For us, however, it screams, “Let’s get frisky together!” Heck, even the packaging has a beach-surfer-style pop to it.

At its core, the Transformer is a magnificent brainchild of the bullet vibrating system and that stem from a pose-able reading lamp. It’s like they took that bending part of the reading lamp, put two bullet vibes on it, synced them up with some awesome and playful software, and then made it look beautiful.

The settings on the vibe has a little bit of a learning curve, and there are some things you should know up front, so you don’t get stuck trying to fix it in the middle of a session. For one, read the manual. Know how to turn it on and off (it comes locked, and you have to press and hold the + and - buttons for three seconds to unlock it), know how to increase and decrease intensity, and know how to change the vibration patterns. Also, if you are going to insert the toy, realize that one of the ends has the control modular. If you want to switch settings, don’t insert that end -- lesson learned ;)

Other than that, this vibrator has endless possibilities -- from body massage, clitoral, vaginal, penile, frenulum, anal, prostate, nipple, and anywhere massage, you will be filled with delight. For the ladies into something more daring, you can put one end in your vagina and one in your anus with the shifting pattern. This pattern vibrates one bullet at full strength, and when it’s coming down in strength, the other one picks up speed. This goes back and forth, and I can only imagine what it would feel like. I’m a guy, so no luck for me there.

Final thoughts: This is an amazing and innovative invention that I wish I would have designed. The geniuses at PicoBong are really onto something, and I’m happy they sent me this one. There is really nothing else like it. Enjoy!

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PicoBong Transformer -- A Super Fun Way to Excite Your Senses

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

The SVAKOM Echo is likely the most powerful vibrator in the smallest size I have ever encountered. I’ve been in the sex toy industry since 2001, and this is one awesome piece of engineering. When I got it in the mail, I was shocked to see just how small it was. When my Wife saw it, she said, “It’s cute. It doesn’t look like a vibrator at all.” Well, she’s right. It’s just a simple curved piece of sexual energy that is unassuming and inconspicuous. It’s beautiful to look at and beautiful to behold.



You can see from my pictures the comparison size next to an American dollar bill. It really is tiny. But, it is perfectly curved for the woman’s vulva, and the vibrations are not only intense, they are equally distributed throughout the device. It’s like a smooth warm pebble that beckons to be rubbed.

When it’s on the highest setting, it’s incredibly intense (on behalf of my Wife). There are, I think, five different patterns you can go through, but we’re a fan of the consistent vibration. You may like something different, and that’s why SVAKOM put them there.

Frankly, SVAKOM came out of nowhere in the sex toy industry. For years, it was Adam and Eve, Doc Johnson, and other big names. Then Lelo came out with their high luxury items. Let me just say, SVAKOM has them all beat. Don’t believe me? Buy something from Lelo, and then buy SVAKOM. Whatever their engineers are up to, I want to have the next product. I am so happy I found them online. They allowed me to have this product at a discount to give you a review, and if they didn’t, I probably would have paid double for this vibe. My wife is satisfied, I’m satisfied, and you will be satisfied.

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Oh my God! This is the most powerful clitoral vibrator I have ever encountered.


A few weeks ago, I had a thought about prostate massage in the health sector. There are a lot of men, mostly older, who suffer from enlarged prostates and/or inflamed prostates. Anecdotally, I would say that most of those men are against putting something inside their rear ends. So, I went out and found a medical device, asked the business to provide it to me so I could review it, and this is what I found regarding the Sonic Prostate Health Massager:




Let’s get one thing out of the way first and foremost -- This product is not a sex toy; rather, it’s a medical device that is designed as such.

There are countless products out there that promise the same thing regarding prostate massage, but very few are dedicated for the health benefit. That said, there was nothing sexual about using this toy. Its design is medical, the application is medical, and the result was not erotic. It was, however, refreshing.

When the product arrives, it will be plain packaging, and no one will know what it is. In fact, even if someone opened it, it still seems innocuous enough that no one would figure it out. It was designed for the man who is a bit hesitant about sticking something up his backside. I have no problem with it, but some men do. So, I put myself in that man’s mindset.

From opening the package, to reading the instructions, to putting it together, to insertion, and to use, the total time was about five minutes. I would say for the average man who has never done this, it will take you about 10 to 15 minutes the first go-round. Why? Because you probably don’t know where your prostate is. And that’s OK. You’ll know it when you hit it. And the rubber tip on this particular device is soft enough that it won’t hurt you.

You need one AA battery to get it to work. When you screw the tip inside the handle, do it gently. If you over-crank it, it will pop off the threads. If it seems a little loose, that’s OK; it’s not going to come out. Like I said, it’s not a sex toy -- you’re going to be gentle with it anyway.

Once you do find your prostate (and insertion with lube is a necessity -- vaseline works just fine), push the “on” button, and let it rest there. After 30 seconds, gently start to massage it up and down. This is not designed to stimulate like an Aneros toy; it is designed to send vibrations into the organ itself, and get blood moving in there. This will help release toxins, as older prostates have a tendency to build up heavy metals. After about two minutes, you’re done. Pull it out slowly, clean it off with warm soap and water, and put it away until the next day. I suggest engaging every day, or do it at the guidance of your doctor.

For the straight men out there who think this will make them gay, just remember that prostate cancer makes you dead. Don’t choose your pride over your health.

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Sonic Prostate Health Massager

Monday, August 8, 2016

Readers,

This article is part review and part tutorial for those starting to play with anal toys (especially you guys out there):

Over the course of purchasing and reviewing sex toys, I've come across a lot of different models. OhMiBod was kind enough to send me some of their product line when I told them what I was doing. One of those products happened to be the Lovelife Dare
All of OhMiBod's products are shipped discreetly. In fact, I've only ever run into one company (a smaller Chinese supplier) that ever sent anything that was not discreet. If you're dealing with a well-established and reputable company like OhMiBod, you don't have to worry.

You'll notice that it has a slightly feminine look; however, at Sexually Secure, we put those traditions to bed (pun intended). Time to start exploring what you like and what you want, not what other people tell you to do. Just keep it legal and respectful.

The Dare is a simple silicone plug that costs a little under $30 from OhMiBod. It might seem like a higher price than other plugs you can buy on Amazon, but with this, you know you're going to get a good product that is built to last. You can see from the picture that it has a whimsical pull/safety tab. Where it looks like it might hook around, it's not actually a loose pull tab. It is one solid piece with no moving parts -- you can't unravel it.

The reason I suggest this piece as your starting point is due to its size. I was really expecting it to be bigger when it came in the mail, but it was definitely a throwback to my earlier days. The words my Wife said -- "It looks cute." I guess cute is the way I would sum it up, too.

To use the plug, ensure you have a water-based lubricant. We'll discuss lubricants and their properties in future posts, but for now, you can always bet on water-based to be the safest for your toys. If this is your first time putting something inside your derrière, you may want to rub it around your anus (well lubed) for a few minutes. Get comfortable, and allow the sensations to flow through you. Be in the moment, and don't expect anything -- just let the feelings of all those nerves pile up until you want to stick it inside. When that time comes, do it slowly, and when it's all the way in, just let go. Literally. Let go. Your sphincter will do all the work for you to hold it in place.

Once it's in there, just relax and enjoy the semi-full feeling that the Dare gives you. It's not going to be the fullest feeling out there, but you're new to this. It's OK. In order for it to hit my own prostate, I had to use manual manipulation. If you're of smaller stature, it may already be on your p-spot, which is great for you. Just squeeze and release your sphincter muscles, and feel how nicely it presses on your prostate.

What this will end up doing is increasing intensity and excitement of your sexual session. One, through the "naughtiness" of putting something inside your rear. Two, the fact that it's massaging your prostate. Don't expect a prostate orgasm with this toy, though. It's designed for beginners. You'll graduate soon, if you stick it out long enough.

When you are done with your session, whether solo or together, you'll eventually need to remove the Dare. To do that, I recommend heading to the bathroom. If you didn't clean out with an enema (another future topic we'll discuss), be prepared to have a little bit of "dirt" on it. Do this alone in the bathroom so you don't make your partner uncomfortable. Ensure you clean the Dare with warm soap and water or a dedicated toy cleaner. Once it's dry, put it in the white satin case that came with it, and start thinking about when you're going to use it again. ;)

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Lovelife Dare -- Perfect for Your First Time Prostate Plug

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